Mom Friends
So what do you need to look for in a friend?
Let’s face it—mothering is hard. We moms need time to unwind without the kiddos underfoot. And who better to do that with than another mom who is going through many of the same things you are?
It sounds simple enough, but how do you know if the mom you’re confiding in is a true friend? How do you know she isn’t judging your parenting skills? The truth is, you can’t always know. We’re human, after all.
Still, it is possible to find a mom friend you can trust—someone you can share secrets with, laugh about the funny antics of your children, and find comfort in just being together.
One of the most important things to look for in a friend is whether your kids get along. Are they friends—or could they be in the future?
Some of my closest friendships began through my own children. They would want to invite a friend over, and as young kids do, that meant their mom came along too.
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Is she the kind of person you can turn to when you need cheering up or want to share a secret? As I mentioned earlier, mothering is extremely hard.
Playdates with the kids meant getting to visit with your friend. These were the times that I would trade stories with other moms and get new ideas to do things.
Sometimes I just needed someone to vent with and share secrets with. There were times when I felt like I needed to see my mom friend even more than my child needed to see his/her friend.
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An important thing to look for when finding a true mom friend is whether you actually have fun together. Do you enjoy each other’s company? Can you easily find fun and interesting things to talk about?
Remember, she’ll be the one you call when you just need to get out of the house and want a fun companion to hang out with.
Remember Girls Night Outs are very important during this time in your life. This is a form of self care that all moms should indulge in.
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One of the most important things to look for is how she treats other moms and people in general. Does she talk about other moms behind their backs to you? Does she mock or judge other people’s kids?
If she does this to others, it’s worth thinking about what she might be saying about you to her other mom friends. Is that really the kind of person you want to be around?